In this episode, I share my takeaways from my interview with Debbie Spellman
Debbie Spellman is a change-maker and therapist with a difference. She specialises in Mind Detox Therapy, in particular in helping women to achieve the lives that they want. Learn more about Debbie at her website. In this interview we explored the links between self worth and net worth.
Takeaway #1
“How much you value yourself really dictates how much value you put out to the world”. Lack of self-worth leaves us struck with indecision, procrastination and lack of success. You don’t charge what you are worth or worse, keep giving things away that you should charge for.
Takeaway #2
Low sense of self also affects the emotions we feel about ourselves. This low-vibration can work to push clients away and make you less successful. It can show up in your body language and tone of voice and have an impact on everything you do.
Takeaway #3
Doing the inner work on yourself leads to massive personal and business growth.
Transcriptions
Intro: Want to know what successful people are doing with their money to create wealth and use it consciously for the greater good? Welcome back to Wealth Unplugged, the weekly podcast that gives you diamond tips on creating conscious wealth from change makers, world shakers and wealth creators. Now here’s your host, Barbara Turley.
Barbara Turley: Hi everyone and welcome to Wealth Unplugged for another week of amazing insights into wealth from the remarkable people that I’ve been interviewing on my feminine wealth TV show. Before I dive in into today’s show I just want to share with you a little learning I had this week after interviewing Heather Porter on the show last week.
A few days ago I sat down to write a blog post. To be honest, really procrastinating about it for ages. Again, I sat down and I hit writer’s block. I wondered off into day dreamland as you do when you’re desperately trying to avoid the difficult task. One of my key takeouts from Heather’s interview actually popped into my head. Heather had said, “Just be you. Authenticity, it’s the new black.” It was just brilliant, it was the perfect thought to pop into my head at the perfect time.
I came back to my blog post and just decided, you know, just get over myself, write like I would speak and be completely raw and completely real. It was super. I found my voice, I wrote from my heart, and even if I do say so myself, I think the blog post turned out pretty good. If you want to check it out it’s actually on my blog at energisewealth.com and it’s called Have You Found Your Hidden Money Today?
[inaudible 00:01:37] not affect really has been a sense of pride, that what I’m doing here is really useful and it’s really important. It’s given me a new sense of vigor to give you some really great key takeouts again today. This week I have the pleasure of interviewing Debbie Spellman of Debbiespellman.com on the hot topic of self-worth and net worth, and how they impact each other. Debbie is real change make in the world with a big mission and even bigger heart. She’s a therapist with a difference. She specializes in mind detox therapy.
Basically, she helps women to identify and remove the mask that are keeping them really stuck in lives that they just don’t want, then she guides them through a process of discovering their true selves, unlocking their inner power. I mean I just love her work. In fact, I find it so amazing her work that I’ve invited her to be an expert contributor on my Get Savvy Academy training program which is launching soon. If you want to hear more about that and make sure that you’re signed up for my newsletter over on energisewealth.com and I’ll be communicating about that very soon.
Diving right into my key takeouts from my chat with Debbie, the first one that really struck me got right through the heart of the self-worth versus net worth debate. Debbie said that how much you value yourself really dictates how much you value what you put out to the world, your inherent value. Of course, then that in turn has everything to do with how much money you’ll ask for in return for that value. If you have a lack of self-worth then we place a low value on our gifts, our talents, our knowledge and even our businesses.
The fear of being rejected then causes us to be struck by indecision and procrastination, which of course leads to lack of success and total failure in lots of circumstances. It’s a real self-sabotaging behavior. When it comes to making money and building wealth as well, this is really not the greatest place to come from because you’ll continually play down your worth, charge less, constantly discount your work, or worse, just keep giving everything away for free with no strategy behind it.
This is the curse of the perfectionist, and I have to say I never thought I had a lack of self-worth until I really started to examine it from these different angles and chatting with Debbie. Throughout my career as an equity trader I was surrounded by mostly male colleagues who, to be honest, they were just masters at self-promotion. They had no problem telling you how brilliant they were especially when it came to bonus paying time. Me, on the other hand, often find myself apologizing for mistakes I had made, things that maybe hadn’t gone quite right.
I find it harder to be so blatantly egotistical. I know full well now that I definitely didn’t make the money I could have or should have in that role, and it’s squarely down to my own self-worth issues. I’m the classic perfectionist character and so I just end up being my worst critic. It’s certainly not valuing yourself. After getting to know Debbie and her work, it’s something I’m really looking to become more and more aware of and to really change in my own life.
Today, I would really urge you to do the same and really have a think about how this key takeout might be playing out in yourself, and of course in your wealth. Moving on to my next key takeout which I guess is a follow on point from my first one, [inaudible 00:05:12] that this low sense of self also affects how we feel about ourselves. It can make us feel sad or ashamed, or even angry and resentful. These kinds of emotions, they’re really heavy, low vibrating emotions, and they energetically push clients and potential business partners away.
This low vibrational frequency makes you really unattractive to do business with. It shows up in your voice, in your marketing, how you carry yourself, how you conduct business, and in the end makes you less successful, and of course, less wealth. This all got me thinking about how money is such a symbol of success and importance in our society today. I guess those that make lots of it, it’s kind of like proof that they are somehow more valuable than those that don’t. Everyone ends up chasing more money, so that then they can feel more valuable and show everyone else that they are more valuable.
The paradox is that the value comes from inside yourself. Cultivate that first and a strong sense of self, then value what you bring to the world, and you’ll find that the world will start paying you properly for that worth. My final key takeout was a really important one and it’s simply that doing the inner work on yourself leads to massive personal and business growth on the outside. This means big wealth growth too so it’s so well worth doing the work.
You should check out the whole interview over on my website, energisewealth.com and be sure to let me know what you think of it. I’m always delighted to hear how the show impacts so many different people in different ways. That’s a wrap for this week, I hope you got some diamond tips from the show that you can start implementing it in your own life straight away to get your own wealth moving. Remember also, tune in next week when I’m going to be giving you the rundown on my chat on wealth and wellness with Fiona Cosgrove of Wellness Coaching Australia
Okay, have a great week and see you then.
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